My mom just went along with it because she thought I was happy. So I said yes. My dad told me it was a good idea so I could get on my future husband’s health insurance.
"I wanted to say no, but I didn’t want to reject him because I did want to marry him eventually, and I didn’t think we’d recover from a failed proposal. But after we'd been dating for four years, he proposed to me when I was 22." I told my boyfriend this when we were talking about our future together, and I also told him that I wouldn’t want to get married until after 25 for that reason - I only want to get married once. I read an article one time that said the part of our brain that’s in charge of decision-making doesn’t fully develop until age 25. "I got married at 23 against my better judgment. And be patient with yourself in the process of getting out."ġ5. I wouldn't say I regret the experience, necessarily. I don't see it as a failed marriage or as a mistake I see it as a growth experience that taught me a ton. My advice to others would be: Trust yourself. If you are wondering if it's supposed to be this hard, it's probably not. Still, I stuck with it in hopes that it would get better, until I realized it wouldn't. My anxiety was through the roof for the entirety of our relationship, to the point where it was debilitating. "I spent many nights crying myself to sleep and wishing I hadn't gotten married so I could just walk out. I was too young to know how difficult it was 'supposed' to be, and I spent the first year wondering, 'Is it supposed to be THIS hard?' I kept second-guessing myself because of that advice."
One of the hardest parts was that you constantly are told how difficult marriage is and how the first year is the hardest.